Monday, March 27, 2017

#SOL17: Give Me Things that Don’t Get Lost

Painting w digital remix (M.A. Reilly, 2017)


Those haunting lines from Neil Young's song, "Old Man" have caught my attention. Young sings,

“Love lost, such a cost.
Give me things that don’t get lost..." 

and I am nodding alongside him--as I too want things that don't get lost. I too have wanted the permanent.


What are the types of things that don’t get lost? What treasures do we carry that do not have the potential for wandering, migrating?  

Nearly two years ago I wrote that perhaps those people in your life who are your true North are the types that don't get lost. I was thinking about what sticks to you, what stays true through all the changes. A handful of months later, my true North would suddenly die and I would wear that loss like a glove that fits too perfectly, too necessary. 


I thought heartbreak was the result of Rob dying. It was not.


During the last year, I could not seem to let go of that which was already gone.  The second after Rob took his last breath, he was gone from that body. I remember looking at him and thinking, This is not my husband. This is not my Rob. Nonetheless, I looked for him in all that was familiar, sought the comfort of his company when things felt new, and thought if I practiced being really, really good, he would be able to return. 

I'll tell you now that the main source of my heartache was not letting go of what was already gone.


Love doesn't get lost--even with death.  
It adheres.  
It is bone deep. 

As Devon would tell me one night when sadness was more pronounced than not-- Dad isn't gone, we carry him with us. He made us.

Love endures.


  1. We carry him with us. Bone deep. Beautiful.

  2. Yes, through all the sights and sounds, the smells and touches, those we imagine lost are there. Beautifully written, Mary Ann.

    1. Thank you Linda. Appreciate your comments always.

  3. Your words above are powerful and true.

  4. I am still trying to figure this out. I wish I was there.

    1. I don't stay in this knowledge all the time. I learn it mostly by writing. Each day opens us to new understandings and the pain gets less punchy.


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